Apprenticeship Skills Development
Grow in your people helping skills to better serve those in need.
Essential Skills
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As you know, helping people is more than just listening. Helping people is the ongoing practice of paying attention to the whole person and assisting them to look inside of them self, to hear and see their brokenness and courageously respond. “Help me” to see, hear and respond is a good response by both the helper and the helpee, ultimately to the Creator (God) and His Word. The person helping is simply one tool God uses in the healing process and must practice listening and discerning God’s lead.
Helping is risky on all parts.
Resources:
When Pleasing Others is Hurting You by Dr David Hawkins(2004)
The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouen (1972) entering personally into the condition of another in order to walk with the person towards healing.
When Helping Hurts by Steve Corbett, Brian Fikkert and David Platt (2012)
Which Tool Do I Use?
Counseling techniques are numerous in our culture today. Yet one tool essential on the helper’s part is “surrender”. Click on the button to read more.
Practical Tips
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Most always, the first impression by the helpee of the helper begins the dance of cooperation, safety and trust. Some personalities will begin scanning the helper to formulate strategies in the relationship. Other personalities will be cautious, uncomfortable and/or quiet. Then other personalities are present, though maybe aloof, not very interested or different motives than to get help.
The helper must not be overly cautious/suspicious, though not assuming the helpee’s personality and their motives for seeking help. Be yourself, authentic and attuned to God’s discernment of the helpee.
Helping is not about liking the helpee, feeling sorry for them, nor about judging them. Respect boundaries of the helpee’s need to be safe/comfortable, though do not give into the helpee’s attempt to be codependent and/or their unhealthy expectations.
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People helpers can be too accommodating for various reasons. When scheduling a time, it’s wise to give the helpee several dates and times. Allow the responsibility to be on the helpee to accommodate your schedule, which establishes respect that is needed in the helping relationship.
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